The Golden Rule states, “Do unto others as you would
have them do unto you.” In many
instances, this is twisted into, “Do to others as they do to you.” What are the real life results of both
“rules”? How does it affect
relationships, both in the short term and the long term? Discuss this topic using your observations, your readings, or
your personal experiences.
When someone follows the Golden Rule “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” they tend to be taken advantage of and more vulnerable to getting hurt because they never retaliate the wrong that’s been done upon them. My cousin let her husband (her ex-husband now) get away with so much and he continued to treat her wrong but she never did anything about the problem or back to him. She now has so much built up angry, that she couldn’t have a simple conservation with him. So the ruins relationship longer and short term. However, the Golden Rule to “Do to others as they do to you” will only cause things to become worse because neither of you will be mature so the wrong is a continuously happening. My sister and I wanted the same pair of jeans and we agreed that I would get them. Yet, she gets the pants which made me livid so I got some shoes I knew she wanted. The situation become really intense and we did not speak for two weeks which was completely ridiculous because we were the oldest acing like little kids. Two wrong won’t make a right.
ReplyDeleteThe golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” is widespread across the entire world. Although many people should corporate this rule in their lives it is not to be followed blindly. Since every situation will be different it is the person’s responsibility to adjust the rule so it fits their current circumstances. The rule is vague so it doesn’t discriminate against any particular position that someone may encounter.
DeleteBoth rules can ruin relationships for any and everybody. If someone treats your bad, you treat them bad also. If someone hits you, you hit them back. If someone betrays your trust, you betray theirs. Two wrongs don't make a right. Never stoop down to anyone's level and try to get 'revenge'. Say if your married and your husband cheats, so you decide to step out and cheat too. Since you did that he did it again and you did it again. Are you and your husband goin to make the relationship any better? Its understandable that your doing him the way he did you but at the end of the day, your only hurting yourself. I tell myself all the time that I am going to start treating people how they treat me but that won't make me any better than them. I don't have a bad heart so I give people more chances than they deserve. That makes people realize that they are doing me wrong. It's completely understandable to want to treat people the way they treat you but it's not right.
ReplyDeleteI agree with everything Kiyah said. There should always be a certain line that should never be crossed when it comes to personal feelings and justice. Just because a person feels hurt does not mean that they should take justice into their own hands and try to "make it right." To quote Kiyah directly, "Two wrongs don't make a right."
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DeleteI agree with your examples, Going back and forth isn't making a statement its just causing more problems that wont be resolved.
DeleteI strongly follow these two rules and believe that it has a profound meaning. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" states that treat others the way you would want them to treat you, which should be a general personality trait when people interact with others. But sometimes the way you treat people, often, you don't get the same treatment back and take advantage of a persons respect. You can be completely friendly with somebody and they can be talking bad about you behind your back which then ruins a friendship. "Do to others as they do to you" is a rule that you ill have a lot of back and forth but no resolution to a relationship. Two wrongs don't make a right and you can't build on nothing. For instance, Me and my mother have our days when one will have an attitude which causes one of us to then have an attitude also which puts us in a situation where things don't go right and we end up mad at each other. Yes, the way you treat people should be an equal doing, but if one is treated badly then you shouldn't retaliate by doing the same.
ReplyDeletei agree with you when you say "But sometimes the way you treat people, often, you don't get the same treatment back" because people these days are very rude and everyone is raised differently, this to me is particularly the reason why people gets the rule mixed up with "Do to others as they do to you", because why should i give respect to someone who doesn't return the respect , so yes i'm going to treat you withe the same respect you treat me, meaning i am going to treat you how you treat me. Point, Blank, period. lol
DeleteHow do you react when you “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”? The comment brings attention to the fact that someone could be treating a person so friendly yet the other is completely going against the rule. Has that been an issue in your personal life since this is a rule that in followed by in your life. I agree with your statement of the rule "Do to others as they do to you" will cause no resolution to a relationship with this issue. Likewise, the relationship with your mother is similar to the one I used to have.
DeleteI also found the cutest video on "The Golden Rule." It's about three minutes long.
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There is no doubt that the golden rule is a very important guideline to consider in everyday life. It results in a more sociable and likeable person. Yet, unfortunately, some may twist it to "do on to others as they do to you." This will result in either a more likable person, like the golden rule does, or a rude and unpleasant person. For example, my cousin was over my house for a weekend and I didn't let him sleep on the bed like he normally does. Consequently, when I slept at his house, he made me sleep on the floor too. It was very rude, but it's what I deserved.
ReplyDeleteAre these two rules appearent in Mary Shelly's novel Frankenstein? Do they serve as a major theme throughout the entire story?
ReplyDeleteThe “Do to others as they do to you.” is used in the novel Frankenstein because although Victor F. did not give the monster : a name, attention, love, or a wife; that does not mean that the monster should get revenge on Victor by killing his brother or causing harm to anyone else close to Victor for that matter just because the monster was hurt. This rule is definitely one of the themes in the novel.
ReplyDeleteThere are many results that come with The Golden Rule, me personally i get both of the "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" & "Do to others as they do to you" mixed up all the time, but to sum it up this rule is basically saying treat people how you want to be treated. This rule affects people and relationships in many ways, for example i saw a movie called think like a man where there was one couple where the woman made more money than the man. eventually she started to feel a little embarrassed when she saw her ex and started to compare him to her current boyfriend, she started treating her boyfriend differently, being rude, throwing shots at him, etc, and they ended up breaking up. she soon got into a relationship wither her ex. but while in the relationship he started treating her how she was treating her last boyfriend, and soon realized she had made a mistake. this was a perfect example on why you should do unto others as you would have then do unto you.
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ReplyDeleteThe results of both these rules have made changes in certain people’s lives and have made the world a somewhat nicer place. These rules affect short term relationships because it can assist both parties with their maturity and growth as they step foot into other relationships throughout their life time. They help long term relationships a little because it can help the spouse with obtaining new friends and becoming more sociable. These two rules have helped me in particular, because they have guided me from out the abyss of social depression. I have also noticed that when guys who are bullied, are more likely to bully somebody else.
When discussing the golden rule we must consider how it affects relationships both short term and long term. Before all of that we must know what the golden rule is, and it basically means treat other people nicely and give the same respect that anyone wants. As far as relationships it can only affect long term when a person is doing terrible on his behalf. When it comes to short term the quote,” Do to others as they do to you.” Comes into play because a person can lie in a heartbeat and get caught that day. Whereas, when a person lies all of the time it creates problems in the long term.
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ReplyDeleteWhen you follow the Golden Rule "do unto others as you would have them do unto you," you may treat someone in a kind manor but then you might not get the same treatment in return. For example, your friend is hungry in 6th period on an "A" day and you give them a dollar to buy a snack. You're are going to expect them to have your back or do you the same favor you did for them when the time comes that you need it. So then the time actually comes around when the shoe is on the other foot, but the refuse to share their funds with you. It then turns into, "do to others as they do to you." Another time comes when they ask for a favor, but you refuse to cooperate and you bring up the fact that they didnt help you after you helped them. It escalates into an argument, and now you're no longer friends. CASE CLOSED!
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