Monday, October 6, 2014
Contemplate this too...
Why is it so difficult for us to accept responsibility for what we have done? Why do we run away from the consequences of our own bad judgement? Using specific evidence from your personal experience, your readings, or your observations, discuss the consequences of not facing up to your choices.
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It is exceedingly difficult for people to accept responsibility for what they have done. People do not want to view themselves as someone who has done something immoral. No one wants to resemble the “bad guy”. People view themselves as a “good” person who would not do something that is considered bad or wrong in our society. Most people were raised in a way that looked down upon those who did immoral things. Some are scared of taking responsibility of their actions because of their parents. They do not want to disappoint them nor have their parents view them in a different light.
ReplyDeleteSo are the children born to drug dealers and alcoholics raised to do well? Your statement is too generalized. Parents are a factor however not all parents have that effect on their children. Also, some people do not mind being seen as a” bad guy”. For example, the gang banger who promote the danger lifestyle do not necessary mind the image they hold. Besides, in our society people have so many views on what’s right or wrong since we have become accepting of certain things and people. I agree that people are not willing to accept the own responsibilities however it’s more because of their own fears and insecurities.
DeleteChildren who are born to alcoholics and gang bangers have a higher chance of becoming those types of people than any other type of child. Kids adapt to their surroundings more than adults do and most of the time whatever they see their parents doing, they assume that those actions are necessary and the right thing to do. Just like when I was growing up around my brother, and often still to this day when he is around, my family will always tell him, “Be very careful of your actions because your brother is going to mimic you because he believes that, your actions are what cool is supposed to be.” Also, people act exactly like the old saying, “Monkey see, and monkey do.” They act like this because everybody wants to be like someone they admire or someone who seems like their life is flawless.
DeleteI agree with Peters. No one wants to be the out cast. The way one hated by all and known by no one. But everyone has glaws . regardless of looks or money status.
DeleteIt is hard to admit the wrongs that one has done because of something that is simple yet terrifying called fear. Whether its fear of our parents or fear of society, its will always be a main factor as whether to tell the truth or not. Many people will believe that telling the truth will get them in more trouble than to just lie. I remember I was cooking one day, I burned something and when my father came home and smelled it I lied and said I didn’t know what it was. Later that evening when he looked in the trash he saw what I burned and he was really angry. It was at that moment that I realized that he didn’t care that I burned something but that I lied about it. From that day on I realized that lying would only get you in more trouble than just telling the truth. I believe that many people will on realize that once they’re put in a situation where they are punished for lying instead if telling the truth.
ReplyDeleteI agree. Many individuals feel as if the moment they take responsibility for an action they have done that there will be glaring eyes waiting to judge them like a picture book. There is a great amount of fear of not being accepted, or being made fun of, or feeling condemned. It is so heart wrenching to know that so many feel as if they cannot be who they truly are and take responsibility because there will be no one to support them or attempt to aid them in a time of need. I rememberwhen I first moved to this area everyone made fun of me because I liked rock music and I cared about the environment and because I talked 'white' and I felt so awkward and ashamed to be who I was to the point where I was willing to do anything to make friends and belong somewhere. I would deny that I admired the things that I truly did in order to fit in. I was running away from my responsibility to be true to MYSELF because of fear of ridicule. I now know that who I have recently learned that who I am is nothing to be ashamed of and I take full responsibilty of every decision I have ever made because I am secure in the fact that I am myself and that's the best thing I can be.
DeleteI agree with this also. No one wants to own up to what they have done, knowing that there will be consequences with the truth. With this being said, there is one part of Gabby's post I do not agree on. Telling the truth will get you in just as much trouble as lying. Parents only say the opposite to encourage, or even better, trick, a child into confessing. For example, once me abd my cousin broke a couch together. Even though my cousins lied, and I confessed immediately to our actions, we all got the same whooping and punishment.
DeleteAlthough telling the truth will get you into as much trouble as lying it is about character. Telling the truth can tell you a lot about someone's character and although you still got a whipping I bet your parents were proud.
DeleteAlso in response to Gabby lies such as the one you mentioned are lies when they wouldn't care, However lets take an example of something that's actually hard to take responsibility for such as getting a ticket. Either way you are going to get punished, however because you told the truth that doesn't take away the fact that you did something wrong. Everyone knows that they did something wrong whenever they ask themselves the question should I tell or not but whether you tell or not is not as important as acknowledging that what you did was wrong and pledge not to do it again. In a situation where someone gets away with getting a ticket as long as they don't get another one telling their parents does not matter
DeleteUsually people do not accept responsibility for choices they have made because they are afraid. Whether it is afraid of parents, society, or law, no one will just accept responsibility and take the consequence for their actions. The person who shot Kris just turned himself in which is basically a week after he did what he did. But why are people afraid? One wasn’t afraid when they were doing wrong. We all know that when we doing something we are not supposed to do, there is a 50% chance we will get caught anyways. I always used to lie to get myself out of things; however sooner or later, I got caught. Now I just tell the truth to keep myself out of trouble.
ReplyDeleteWhen I am approached with questions like this I think of myself and the things that I've done in my past. Some things were easy to take responsibility for and others were not depending on the situation. Most of the time I knew how I would be punished for what I did before i did it. We've all told lies to get out of trouble because we feared the repercussions, but we should always tell the truth no matter what because it builds trust. I had to learn the hard way.
ReplyDeleteAccepting responsibility for one’s actions takes courage and acknowledgment. Humans today run away from their problems because of their lack of judgment. Because of this bad judgment we run away. For instance; when I was 13 I did not study for a final exam, and when my teacher new that I did not study she advised that every parent sign the test. I tried to hide the test for as long as I could, until my teacher called my parents, and I received my punishment. Personally, humans run away from the things that they have did because in the mist of doing the terrible deed they do not think about the consequences.
ReplyDeleteIt is so unbearably difficult for us as people to accept responsibility for what we have done because we are afraid and terrified of the consequences and chain reactions that follow our mishaps. Most times, we know what the consequences may be but despite us knowing, we will still do that incident not even thinking about how harsh they will be later. A lot of people are spontaneous and tend to live in the moment; not aware of consequences and following actions. We run away from consequences b because we know how severe and heart wrenching they make actually be. I am constantly told and informed about stretching before I play sports, but without thinking of the consequences, I decide to play the sport without doing the necessary stretches. The consequences that have followed were injuries and severe muscle cramps during the weirdest times at night. Like in the movie “We Are Marshall”, the coach told one of his best players countless times that he should not play in the game due to a slightly sprained knee, but the player didn't listen. The result of his disobedience to his coach resulted in a torn MCL on the 4th play that he was on the field.
ReplyDeleteI am positive that everyone has had a "should I lie?" moment in their lives so far at least once. When it comes to wrong doings, we become afraid. Our chests get tight, our bodies get shaky, the whole 9 yards. This fear comes from the consequences we could possibly have waiting for us, so most people choose to lie. (By the way, not bringing it up is also a form of lying) For example, infidelity in a relationship. To have a strong relationship, you must both be honest, loyal and trustworthy/trusting. When a partner 'steps out' in a relationship, they often try to cover it up and ignore it, or maybe even lie to their significant other's face about it. Little do they know, lying makes the situation worse. It is easier to respect and forgive a person who is able to admit their wrong doings rather than one who lies and tries to cover it up. Lying digs a hole for the liar, which will take multiple followup lies to keep the the main lie a "fact". I always tell people when I first meet them, "Please do not lie to me, it will do both of us a favor. It will save me from getting as angry, and it will save you from my wrath. If you ever do something, feel free to let me know. I will be upset, but it will not be as bad as if i were to find out something on my own or that you have lied to my face."
ReplyDeleteHow does the motif of being able to accept responsibility relate to Mary Shelly's "Frankenstein?"
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